Son's 15Y old GF Cutting, Family Trauma Impact on Son
Ok, I wasn't ready for this.
I have a boy who is happy, mellow, mature, responsible and empathetic, which, as a full-on single parent has been a blessing. He is a caretaker. This is his first GF, they are both 15. She is smart, articulate and loves him. I don't know her well, she is not open around me. Her family has had significant trauma. The GF's sister, who was a couple of years older, killed herself. The parents are engaged in a bitter divorce. The mother doesn't appear to be employed and has a new boyfriend. Son's GF is cutting herself. Son is very defensive regarding my observation of her cuts. He is fully sucked in and has stress around GF's mental health. These issues are way too big for him and he is weighed down by them. He has confided regarding GF's current mental state around her mother's new BF and wants to help even asking me to see if there are mental health resources for her, since she is on a "waitlist" for therapy and her mother is "reducing her anti-depressants." Oy. This is way beyond what he can handle. He would like me to help him find mental health resources for her. I am aware of Seneca and also have reached out to Kaiser re: my son's mental health but have not gotten a lot of support there. Not quite how I expected his first romance to go. So appreciative of any advice.