Adopting a Step-child
Archived Q&A and Reviews
- I'd like my step-father to adopt me
- My husband would like to adopt my 6 year old daughter
- Adopting the Child of a Family Member
Contact Larry Siegel for advice/help on being adopted by your step dad. He's handled two adoptions for me - albeit they were adoptions at birth. His number is 415-256-8844. Good luck! CG
i am an adoption service provider (registered with the state, and someone you have to go through for an independent adoption in the state of california - an ASP that is) ASP's work with the birth and adopting family to sign all the legal paperwork, ensure that the birthparents know their rights etc. give me a call (at no charge)at 510 528-2263 and i would be happy to walk you thru the process. butjust to answer a couple of your questions; no you do not need an attorney (although it can make it easier for you - paperwork wise) and yes, your birth father's rights would have to be terminated. you can either call me for clarification or call the department of social service - adoption branch. not knowing, what county you live in, i will give you the state number. it is (916) 574-1333. ask for the person who deals with independent adoptions. good luck. betty bleicher, lcsw betty
This is a simple process (unless your biological father kicks up a fuss) and you probably won't need a lawyer. One place to start is to get the NOLO Press book on adoption in California. You can go to their website http://www.nolo.com/ and look for articles and books they have available.
Basically, this is done by county and you can find the forms that you need online for most counties. The website for Alamada Co. is http://www.acgov.org/courts/self_help/Adoptions/stepparents.html Fill out the forms, submit them in triplicate (or whatever), go through an interview, fill out more forms, etc. Finally get a court date, which will just be a formality, see the judge and have him or her sign, and that's about it. I don't know precisely about your biological father, but if he's been out of the picture for so long you may not even have to contact him. Good luck. Dianna
there is a process for adult adoption. a place to start might be a book by nolo press, a good self-help resource, called ''Do Your Own California Adoption: Nolo's Guide for Stepparents and Domestic Partners.'' hope this helps
This responds to the mother whose husband wants to adopt her first child & is uncertain of the reaction of the bio-father. I respond both as an adoptive parent and a lawyer.
Your husband is right & you owe your first child at least an attempt at adoption. Otherwise, you give that child the message that she is different, that her relationship with her father is different, and that she is not a part of the family. Adoption is the assumption of parental responsibilities and it is forever. Guardianship can be eliminated (since you are already there as her natural guardian) or shift at will. It is not a forever commitment. Your husband wants to make the forever commitment and you should back him all the way, for the sake of your child. S/he should stand on equal footing in the family with his/her sibling.
If your first husband is as worthless as he sounds, he can be pursuaded that he should be glad he will be relieved of the obligation of support. If he opposes the adoption, at least you have something you can say to that child when s/he asks why she was never adopted by the man she knows as Dad.
My husband was adopted by his mother's second husband, around age 2 or 3. He is glad that they did so. He now also has a good relationship with his biological father.