Nanny Survey 2008: Firing a Nanny

Archived Q&A and Reviews

47. If you have ever let a nanny go (fired, mutual decision, change of childcare needs), how was that managed? (E.g., what kind of notice did you give? Severance pay did you give and why? How did you explain it to your children?)

161 responses

  • "2 weeks notice, no severance."

    "After two days , we fired her immediately and gave a week's pay"

    "Although we just hired our nanny, our contract stipulates that we will give her 4 weeks notice if we decide to choose an alternate care provider."

    "As agreed per contract we had 4 weeks notice, but told nanny as well as the share family with 6 weeks notice, b/c I stopped working and became the primary care taker of my child. We agreed before, and followed through with finding her replacement jobs. Kids were only 1 1/2 and did not seem to understand much of our explanations."

    "Babysitter gave notice, stayed until I found a replacement, still occasionally babysits. Told kids that babysitter needed to work fulltime, kids were fine with that."

    "Caring for two children was too hard for our nanny and our nanny no longer wanted to care for 2 children. We were going to dissolve the nanny share in 3 months when my kid went to school. Due to the desire of the nanny to not care for two children, we dissolved the nanny share relationship 3 months early at the other family's choosing. The other family chose to keep the nanny on. Our family was given 1 month of full-time care by the nanny at our home (care was typically in the other home), to provide time to find a new care situation and to fairly break the nanny share. The nanny thus had 30 days of full time pay but only cared for one child. Child was under 2 so after the share dissolved we took the child to see the nanny at the park a few times to enable the child to continue the relationship and slowly separate from the care provider."

    "change of childcare needs and health issues for nanny, gave her severance pay helped to research doctors, disability, etc."

    "fired a nanny due to her being habitually less-than-honest and not respectful of my desires as the mom for what to feed my child. she got two weeks' severance. children were 18mos old. explained that it was time for a change, and that change happens in life."

    "For a short time between my two children we did not employ our nanny. I gave her lots of advance notice, worked to get her alternate employment, and told her I'd do everything I could to get her back when the time came for my second child to need care (which I did)."

    "found a better nanny and started to hire her more than the first. tried to discuss but found it difficult. It was probably mutual anyway, as the first nanny also didn't want to work for our family anymore."

    "Gave 3 months notice We will pay for both her vacation weeks this year, even though she'll only work for us for 6 months. We did the same when she left us temporarily after the birth of our twins."

    "Gave a couple weeks notice. Wimped out and didn't tell her that I thought she was doing a bad job (didn't want to hurt her feelings), told her I didn't need a nanny anymore. (Have regretted the dishonesty ever since....). Didn't really explain to 1-yr-old. He didn't really notice (he had two different nannies on different days, and the other nanny just started coming more). No severance - didn't think about it."

    "gave a month's notice - couldn't afford her any more, and started child in day care"

    "Gave one month notice, helped her find another job, gave her a nice present."

    "Had to do this several times due to moving, change in work, etc. Always gave 1 month min notice and offered to provide recommendations and help with search if needed. Discussed with kids high level reasons."

    "I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to do the same background check as a daycare/school does. Our nanny had TB (which was discovered when someone else entered our nanny share who was a healthcare specialist). Since our nanny was from another country that has a high rate of TB, she asked our nanny to get this done. Our nanny was positive for TB. We all then had to get our kids tested (they were all negative). Ultimately, we had to let this nanny go - which broke our hearts."

    "I did not re-hire a nanny I had used for one child when I had my next. I had helped her find another job, and it was seamless. I know that there were reasons that I didn't want to re-hire her, but I never discussed those with her or my children. She and I had a number of conversations while she worked for us and the situation did not change. I stuck it out because my child loved her and was very attached, but I concluded that ours were not problems that would go away and it wasn't worth trying."

    "I fired a nanny with no notice, she was being unsafe with my kids. I gave her one week severance, I don't know why really. She was kind of young and I didn't want to leave her hanging. I explained to the kids what she was doing that I considered unsafe."

    "I fired my nanny after observing multiple abuses of neglect with my infant. One day she actually tried walking out on the job because my eldest teenage daughter was present with she and my infant and could see (and reported the extremity of the mistreatment). Nanny said there were "too many cooks in the kitchen" and she liked doing things her way. This entailed strapping my infant into her stroller and walking her entire shift, not changing diapers, allowing her to play at the park, leaving her in the public restroom by herself while using the bathroom, leaving her in a room and closing the door while strapped in a stroller and she would not bring my child back to me for feeding times (nursing). Once this was exposed by the presence of my teenager and the observations I had made over a month's trial we both mutually relieved to sever the arrangement. My infant is normally a happy child and was miserable with this woman. She was relieved to be free of her bondage frankly! She was paid for the hours she worked and not give a referral."

    "I gave six weeks notice before the birth of our second child (our previous nanny cared for our older son after school and would only have been available in the afternoons). I gave a hard-and-fast end date, acknowledging that it hinged on when our second baby would be born. I pledged that if the baby was born before that date that I would continue to hire her on an ad hoc basis until she had made what she would have working all the way through to the end date."

    "I gave the nanny the option of working for us while she was looking for other work, even if that meant a month or even longer. She didn't have a problem finding other work. The problem was a working style difference. We explained to our son that we wanted someone else who things in a slightly different way. He didn't ask for her even once."

    "I had an unhappy situation with a nanny where I had to let her go. I gave her one week's notice, and paid her two weeks salary as severance. She and my child had personality conflicts, so I explained it to my child in a way that let her know I had listened to her concerns and was doing something about it. Luckily our former nanny was looking for temporary work, so it was a very smooth transition. I simply said "Katy is going to come back and be your nanny for awhile.""

    "I have let go of two nannies. In one instance, I gave her 3 months notice b/c I really liked her and wanted her to have time to find something she was happy with. She ended up finding somethign sooner than I was ready to let her go and I had to let her go sooner than planned. I was pregnant with my second daughter so I just ended up tapering off work a bit sooner than planned. I told my 30 month old that we didn't need the nanny anymore b/c mommy was staying home to have baby sister. With the second situation, I gave her 1 month notice and one week extra pay. She was caring for my 11 month old so no explanation was needed."

    "I haven't, but would plan to give 2 weeks to a month notice or severance if we no longer needed her help (depending on the situation)."

    "I let my first nanny go (after 5 days of work) because I discovered that she was a smoker, even though she said in her interview that she did not smoke. This made me feel like I could not trust her."

    "I once let a nanny go because she was acting strangely with the kids and would call my office every couple hours with issues in her second week of employment. We ended up giving her immediate notice. She requested two weeks of severance pay which we only paid half. I told the kids *8 and 10 that it wasn't working out. They didn't like her so it was easy to tell them. I let another nanny go because she had lied about her health and was not able to lift more than 20lbs. I gave her 2 weeks notice. This was with a baby, so didn't need to tell the kids."

    "I only gave her a month's notice, which really didn't feel like enough to me. I regret this. I'm going to help her find another kid asap."

    "I told her two months in advance that I was having trouble finding another family to share with, so that she had some warning that I might not be able to keep her on. Then I gave her one month notice. I told my daughter that it was time for her to start pre-school, like the other child we'd been sharing with, and she accepted that."

    "I told my previous nanny that my son was starting school. She got *very* upset and accused me of being duplicitous, not giving her enough notice (I gave her 2 weeks notice and paid her for3 ultimately). It all worked out, but I felt a little railroaded."

    "I've given a month's notice; I've received at least two weeks' notice. I just tell the kids what's happening and why, in language suited to their years. I tell them about a week in advance."

    "I've given her about 2 months notice that we're moving out of town (though not with an exact date yet)...we're still several weeks away. Don't expect to give any severance pay. Child is only 8 months, won't need a lot of explaining."

    "It was abrupt when we realized the nanny was mentally ill. Although there had been numerous warnings and conversations and reviews prior to termination. We spoke with her on the phone to terminate the agreement and then saw her once more to get our house keys back. Our child was an infant, so no discussion was needed."

    "Mutual decision. We had a 'manny' leave work after only two and a half weeks with us, and in a written letter refuse to return without a signed annual contract according to his terms and without ours. We apologized to him that we could not give him what he needed, and politely requested that he come pick up his last paycheck. Privately, we were appauled at his lack of compassion and professionalism, essentially going on strike and deliberately leaving a family without child care for their 9-monthly old in order to force them into contractual terms we were uncomfortable with."

    "Mutual decision: we had only employed her one day a week, for one child, and she needed more in order to make a living. She gave about 3 weeks notice. I helped her find a new job. No severance pay but a sort of bonus in the form of a paid housesitting job for us."

    "Once we let a nanny go (along with another family we were doing a share with) with no notice. She had only been with us about a month, and she was not doing a good job. We considered it a trial period. Recently we let a nanny go after she did not come to work for two weeks due to an illness. She did not communicate with us professionally during her absence, and the particular health issue she was dealing with caused us concern for her ability to care for our children. Therefore, we did not hire her back after her "sick leave.""

    "One nanny we loved left us very quickly to work for another family. She left us in the lurch after years of being close (like family) and doing things together. We did not continue a relationship with her and it was tough on all of us--we missed her but she put us in an awful situation with managing work & children (no coverage). All other nanny's we've worked with, we still keep in touch with and we just amicably worked out when they would leave. . gave them a bonus, etc."

    "our childcare needs changed; at 2 1/2 years, we moved our daughter to a small, home-based "pre" pre-school program with 5 other kids; this was discussed far in advance with our nanny"

    "Our current, wonderful nanny will be leaving us in a few weeks. I gave her a month's notice, have placed ads for her, and will give her a couple hundred extra bucks (that's just a couple of days pay - she only works for us 8 hours a week). My daughter will be going to preschool. We'll keep in touch with her and use her for overnights once in a while."

    "Our daughter began preschool, and we gave our nanny 2 months notice, and helped her with job search"

    "our daughter had a nanny from 3 months old, at 6 months a friend wanted the job. that's how we explained it to her. we gave 2 weeks notice. as it turned out the friend didn't work out, but the nanny had already found other employment. she was able to help us a few days while we found a new nanny, who turned out to be much better and cheaper, so it all worked out for the best."

    "Our last nanny was unable to return from an extended vacation on time and did not know when she would be back - I was returning to work from mat leave. We had to let her go, since she only let us know 2 days before my return to work and had known for 2 weeks that she would not be back. We told our son that she was staying with her father to help take care of him, and that when she was back she would visit him. And that she loved him very much, but she had to take care of her own family."

    "Our nannies have left us due to change in their own plans (going back to school, becoming a teacher, needed more hours), so we didn't give severance pay. (But paid a bonus for good work.)"

    "Our previous nanny left in a bad situation, after years of being part of our family. It was hard and her tardiness and last minute inability to work was unacceptable. She was given a lot of warning and discussion, but then was fired with two weeks pay. It was hard on our kids, but they adjusted fine and we still talk about her (never badly in front of the kids) and send her christmas cards, etc. This all came about as her hours were going to be decreased because of my maternity leave and she planned to find a new job, so she was under increased stress."

    "per contract: "at will", 6 weeks notice, plus 2 weeks severance."

    "severance pay (our former nanny became available and the new person was not working out - mutual decision) In another situation (mutual decision), both nanny and I explained to the children that the nanny was a mommy, and was going to take care of her new baby."

    "She could not dedicate time to just our family, so we asked her to work for us full time or not at all. She decided to not work for us at all."

    "she gave us six weeks notice, as per contract"

    "terrible transition. I didn't want to fire her, I wanted her to change and she couldn't. She left in a huff and walked out after a fight. We talked about it later and still consider her a part of the family, but I didn't realize we would outgrow her and should have dealt with it better."

    "The few times we have let a nanny go over the past 18 years, we have let them go effective immediately and have allowed no severence package. In each instance, the children were not happy with this nanny and were relieved that she was fired. There was little explanation needed."

    "The only time that she went for a long vacation (6 months), it's the most difficult time for my son, we had to call her and use webcam at least once a week to calm him down!"

    "Tried to give notice once, she just quit on the spot, left us high and dry. Fortunately all of her friends thought she was in the wrong, so they pitched in and helped us out."

    "Two weeks' notice with two weeks severance afterwards, to give her a month to find another family/share. With the kids, we focused on why we needed what the new nanny had to offer and not what wasn't working with the old one. We have also continued a relationship with the old nanny, who continues to babysit and provide coverage for the other nanny on rare occasion."

    "Ugh. Actually, we've been lucky. Two nannies didn't work out, but the arrangement was short term anyway. Generally, there have been times when we lost a nanny but not we had to outright fire. The current nanny was told we would no longer need her when oldest started kindergarten -- she knew months in advance and we helped her find new position. We kept in touch and were glad when she was able to come back after we realized our mistake."

    "We did so in France where it is highly regulated and we followed all regulations (including notice period, etc)."

    "we fired our first nanny after two weeks. we paid her for work completed, but no severence."

    "we gave 1 month notice. we knew that it would be ending for multiple reasons, none that had to do with her. i think we gave her an extra $100 or so."

    "We gave her months of notice when our kids transitioned to preschool, and helped her to find a new position. Only gave a week's severance for those reasons."

    "We had one very bad experience with an au pair who arrive sick, depressed, and with a severe eating disorder. It took us a while to figure it all out. When we put it all together, we just sat her down and told her she didn't seem up to the job we had for her and that she had to go home. She left as soon as the agency could organize transportation for her back to her country. It was awkward, and we ended up with a long gap in care at a very busy time. But, we have had 11 other great experiences, so this is absolutely the exception, and not the rule. She was paid throughout her time with us (six weeks) even though she did virtually no work at all."

    "We had several meetings to talk about the issues that came up and so that I could let her know her performance was not acceptable. I did not give her much notice or severance pay, as she was only employed for 6-8 weeks and she did NOT fulfil her side of the contract."

    "We had to let our last nanny go, she had been with us for 4 months. Our styles just didn't match up, we didn't love the way she was with our children, she demanded overtime pay for anything over 40 hours (she only worked 45 hours), she wouldn't travel with us, etc, etc, etc. We just told her that it wasn't working out, she was upset but we paid her 2 weeks severance and we ended the relationship amicably. We see her at th park sometimes with her new charge and we say hello. The children were too young to really ask questions about it."

    "We have an informal "contract" with the nanny for a set amount of time. Thus, we are obligated to pay her, for example for one year, and then can review/renew the contract at that time."

    "we have done this several ways: - mutual agreement based on time (nanny went back to school) and we gave her a "thank you" gift of a laptop for school - fired for cause 2 weeks severance - hours no longer worked and we agreed to a 1 month transition and also gave her 2 weeks as a "thank you""

    "We have given notice and severence pay for a few firings for "cause". We think we have been too generous with this though. I would no longer give notice if firing for cause- just cash as they go out the door, and not more than a week's pay. But these were people I didn't want to be around kids again."

    "We have let two nannies go over the past 7 years. Both were within the first two weeks of employment, both were due to cultural/philisophical differences and we paid both a one week severence. The children were too young to require an explanation."

    "We let a nanny go on a Sunday and gave her one week severance. We felt she was no longer capable of caring for our child. Our child was only 7 months at the time, so it wasn't an issue."

    "We let a nanny on trial go after a week. Since it was trial, there was no severance pay. Our children were less than 6 months old, so no explanation was necessary, we did tell the nanny that the taking care of 2 children was far harder than we had anticipated and that we didn't think she had enough experience with twins, basically."

    "We let our former nanny go because after 3.5 years of trouble-free employment, she was arrested for shoplifting while caring for our son. grrr. Cause of termination was that we could no longer trust her. She showed no remorse, and blamed the shoplifting on her low salary (we paid $15/hr in 2003). No notice. No severance. And very painful for all of us. It coincided with the birth of our second child. We explained it to our first child by saying that he had a nanny, and now the new baby needed a nanny."

    "We let our nanny go in order to join a full-time share. We gave her 2 weeks notice plus 2 weeks severence pay (one week for each year of service) because we knew it would take longer than 2 weeks to find another position. We also helped her find a new family and wrote a glowing review for her. We explained to our child that the nanny's last day with us was coming, and introduced him several times to the new care situation before then. We had a going-away party for her, and printed up picture books of the two of them for them both. We fully intended to keep employing our former nanny for babysitting and to see her informally for his sake, but she has not followed through with our requests, which is a great loss for our child."

    "We let our nanny go when I stopped working. We told her that we would help her find a new job, which we did, and that we would employ her for a reasonable amount of time until she found a new job she was happy with. I think it took about 8 weeks for her to fine another job she was satisfied with."

    "We moved out of the area and gave our nanny 2 months notice. We also helped her to find another job by posting ads on her behalf in the BPN and on Craig's list, writing her a reference letter, and being available for all references. We did not stop helping until she found another good job."

    "we need to move away and will be giving 1 month's severance pay to our nanny. we are also taking our nanny to visit Boston, where we are moving to to find housing, and so that she will have an opportunity to travel, which she loves to do. It is also our goodbye present to her. Hotel/airfare will be paid for and full day's pay for every day of the trip, although she will be expected to watch our infant daughter for part of the time."

    "we've given nannies up to one month notice. typically we've said that it has not worked out due to a difference in how we want to raise our children. other times, the annies have had life-changing events that required them to resign."

    "When he started preschool, we cashed out all of her unused sick/vacation time."

    "When my first child was an infant, I fired a nanny on the spot. Child was too young to need an explanation."

    "When my son started school and there was going to be about 9 months before I had to go back to work after my 2nd baby, I told our nanny that we weren't going to need her anymore. I gave her a 3 month notice and said I'd work with her if she found something else, but that I hoped she would stay. She did and got a job right away."

    "When our first nanny decided she didn't want to switch to a nanny-share after our daughter started school, we kept her on a part-time basis and paid her health insurance until her new full-time employment started. We also gave her a farewell bonus."

    "when the kids were old enough to go to school, they fully understood that nanny is for baby, and kids go to school, so that was simple. We let her know all along the time range for her finishing up with our family, and we chose a nice gift (necklace/pendant) plus two weeks extra pay. this has happened twice so far."

    "When we discovered that our Nanny was screaming at our children (and worse) and lying about it, we fired her without any notice or severance. Basically, the breach of trust required us to immediately protect our children, and deserved no severance compensation."

    "When we hired her, we said child would go to day care at age two so she was prepared. As we did a share with my sister, we still get to see her after she stops caring for our children. the children were told about school and no nanny. for them school is fun so they don't mind and they still get to see her. I think they will forget her as they get older."

    "When we left our previous nanny share it was due to changing needs and ages of the kids that would be sharing. Everyone knew a few months in advance so that the other family (who was keeping the nanny) could find a new share family and we could find a new arrangement as well. We timed the switch for holidays (Christmas/New Year) since we were planning to go on vacation anyway, and we just didn't go back afterward. We paid the nanny for a week of vacation that was essentially a severance/bonus. Our son was only 11 months old though - now we would never do that, and it would be much harder to explain to him. Can't wait to see what other people do!"

    "When we let our first daughter's nanny go, we let her know 4 months in advance. We didn't pay severence but we found a new situation for her that was personally and financially satisfying to her. We explained to our daughter that she was bigger so she was starting school now. She was fine with it."

    "yes - this person was not a good fit with our family although very nice - too distracted with her personal work and friends - I fudged and told her that since we were moving to a rental during a house hunt, it wouldn't work logistically and that my mother was coming for an extended stay. We did pay her one month's severance. We told the kids that we would see her and liked her but because we were moving we needed someone who lived closer - the nanny we hired didn't actually live that much closer but it worked to make everyone feel good."

    "Yes, a previous nanny with our older child. 1 day notice/2 weeks pay, had a goodbye party with our child and myself in attendance."

    "yes, effective immediately, 2 weeks pay - children were young and needed no explanation"

    "Yes, we gave 2 weeks severance (no notice, due to the concerns about how she would react and the fact that we did not think she was doing a good job, so wanted to change ASAP). The kids were too young be able to explain (about 10 months old)."

    "yes, we gave her 4 months notice. We helped her find/interview new families to work with."

    "Yes. No severance pay since teh employment term was only ~4 months and she was let go due to negligence. We didn't give her any notice, simply asked her not to return."

    "Yes. Managed: not all that well as we fired her. Severance: two weeks but she refused. In writing: the reasons for why she was fired. Also in writing: a letter of reference stating when she worked for us, what her duties were. for our son -- we told him she was not going to take him to the park but we still have photos/etc of her & we talk about her & he seemed to be ok with her sudden absence. We don't think at the time when we fired her that he was enjoying his tme with her as much as he had in the past."

    2 weeks notice and pro-rated vacation days of what she had worked so far for that calendar year

    4 weeks notice

    Always did it during the 'probationary' period agreed upon.

    au pair stole from us: we fired her immediately

    Discussed changing needs; mutually agreed to move on. Gave each other 30 days notice.

    Due to my nanny's inability to handle an emergency situation we let her go and gave her 3 weeks severance.


    Fired - gave 2 weeks severance pay

    For performance: Gave two weeks severance. Terminated with no advance notice once we had arranged a replacement. Wanted child to go to pre-school: gave 2 months notice and paid a bonus but no severance. Children did not require particular explanation.

    Gave 2 weeks pay and one week notice.

    Haven't done it yet.

    I fired a nanny without any notice when I was concerned that she might be endangering my children. I had reason to think that she might be using drugs or be mentally unstable. I did not give her any severance pay. I did not accuse her of drug use but I did fire her suddenly and she never returned my subsequent calls to inquire about her well-being. She also never returned my car seats or keys.

    I gave three months notice. I explained to my daughter that now she was in school (and I wasn't yet pregnant with my son) that the nanny was going to mind some new babies.

    I generally give either 2 weeks notice or two weeks severance pay. Mostly it's mutual with a lot of communication before hand. I usually just tell the children the truth.

    I had several nannies on a trial period and let them go at the end. It worked out well because it ended during the 'trial' period. My son is too young to have it explained - he was only 6-8mos at the time when these situations occurred.

    I have talked to our nanny about the fact that our daughter will be attending preschool in the Fall and that we will no longer be able to employ her when that happens. I told her that I will help in whatever way I can to find her a new nanny job.

    I let a nanny go once on immeadiate notice becasue she left my 10 month old locked in a car unattended for 20 minutes and it was reported. The first nanny we had left when she wanted to go back to school. We are very close to her and she sits every other Friday for date night and is like a second daughter to us. We even helped her get into Cal over the last two years.

    I terminated her on a Friday afternoon..that was it

    I was very honest with both the nanny and our children. We had a change in childcare needs due to school schedules and I gave the nanny 2 weeks notice with the option of keeping her on the payroll till she gets hired elsewhere and I agreed to be on her reference list. We (both the nanny and I) told the children that she will no longer be working for us because of the changes in plans/schedule and made sure to emphasize that we will all still keep in touch.

    I will give her 6 weeks notice.

    I'm about to let my nanny go. I'll be giving 1 week to no notice and will give her two-four weeks severance pay.

    It was mutual occuring at the same time that there was an incident where the nanny was careless causing physical injury to my child. No severance pay.

    It's usually been when I'm on maternity leave. I've given 3-4 months' notice. This time we were clear that this was the last school year.

    Lots of notice and references

    mutual decision usually no severance but usually a bonus if they were good (+/- $1000) children continued to have the women in their lives as babysitters (assuming they didn't move out of town) one former nanny became our 3 child's godmother when she moved to canada

    My nanny was 'hired' on a temporary (<6 months) basis and we both were aware of that at the beginning. She was returning to school and we had other childcare arrangements after that.

    No severence pay because she did not follow the agreed upon rules of childcare and blatant disrespect for our home while we were away.

    One month paid; children were too young for it to impact them

    One month's notice and help with finding a new employer (posting a craigslist ad on her behalf)

    one was given a week or two notice. the others were just working a day a week and did not receive any severance.

    Our first nanny told us she didn't want to watch our little boy anymore because he was too much work for her she was 73 years old.

    paid 2 weeks severance

    paid 30 days b/c she was too ill to care for our children

    severance pay

    She left our son alone in the bath on Friday and we fired her on Monday after we discussed the situation over the weekend. She was told this was her last day and paid for the rest of the week.

    situation changed -- our kids went to preschool and she needed FT. Two months notice -- no severance

    Six weeks notice with offer of continued emploment if nanny could not find job. Assisted nanny to find new job by posting on BPN and other places. Provided references. Told children that mommy was going to stay home and that would still see nanny just less fequently. Had goodbye party.

    The au pair agency representative came over and we fired her together. She stayed in our house for two weeks while she looked for another job but she never watched my children again.

    This has not occurred. This is our first experience with a nanny (we have an infant).

    two weeks notice. she still cared for the kids. kids were too young to have it explained. i had been fired so we didn't need her anymore.

    Typically gave two weeks notice with expectation they would work during that time and also paid accrued vacation. Previous nanny was not doing her job and had excess absences. Child did not ask questions/miss nanny so did not explain.

    Was in a nanny share and left it with about 6 weeks notice to let the other family find a new family to share with

    We disagreed after the first week of work. The nanny wanted to change the working hours and days considerably from what had been agreed to. We let her go on the spot.

    We fired her that day at the end of the day and informed her not to come back the next day. We gave her 2 weeks severance and paid for her unused vacation time. Child was too young to explain it to.

    We gave 2 weeks severance.

    We gave 6 weeks notice when my husband was layed off- and asked in return for 2 weeks notice if she found another job before our 6 weeks was up. She screwed us over and agave us 2 days notice-- We promised her that we would be sure to include that in our references- as she truly burned a bridge (and had worked for us for a year)

    We gave her 2 weeks notice.

    We gave her two weeks notice and helped her find another family to work with. We let he go because we couldn't afford to keep her.

    We gave her two weeks notice and one week additional pay after that.

    We gave our previous nanny two weeks severence and no notice. Probably not the best situation. The children had just turned one and there wasn't much explaining we could do. We made the transition by staying with the new nanny the first few days.

    We had a terrible nanny first time around and she lied to us about everything and the relationship had degraded - we gave her two weeks notice.

    We had to let our full time nanny go becuase she didn't want to do part time when our son started school - mutual decision and we still keep in touch. We had several months notice and we discussed directly wtih our son.

    We have changed nannies when we moved.

    We have fired one nanny and we gave her severance rather than notice. Child was still an infant.

    We have had to slowly cut back the hours we need our nanny but always discuss this well in advance.

    We have not had good luck with nannies. One abused my son; another stole from us; another allowed my kids to write with marker on the tv and pull off the wallpaper; another made phone calls to the psychic hot line -- we had a $1200 phone bill; another continuously lied; another took my daughter to her own house without telling me; another got drunk from our liquor cabinet while watching our kids. We fired these people on the spot.

    We let her know far in advance that we would not need her after the kids go to preschool I have helped her to find other families.

    We moved from the East Coast to the West Coast. We gave our nanny three months notice and helped her find another family.

    We moved to a different area. No severance. Gave over one month's notice.

    We needed to find a new nanny due to scheduling conflicts and pay. We were in a nanny care situation at the time so we gave the nanny and the other family 3 weeks notice to find another child to share with.

    We said we were starting daycare and gave her 2 weeks severance pay.

    We spoke to her and provided her a letter explaining how much longer we would like her to work for us and what we would pay her. We told our children that now that they were older we needed someone who could more/different things with them.

    We will give our nanny 1 months pay or more when we let her go this summer. She has been with us for 6+ years.

    we've always phased our nannies out so that the kids don't have a hard time.

    When we moved we gave 1 month notice. No severance pay.

    With great sadness! We had a nanny for 5 years who was definately a member of the family and with whom we've kept in touch. Our children adore her. We gave her 4 months notice of an anticipated schedule change (my children going to school for a full day instead of a 3 hour day) and she gave us 1 months notice when she determined our new reduced hours would not work that well for her.

    Yes - gave her a month's notice. We also paid her for a week of her vacation time because we've been happy with her service.

    yes- it was still during the trial period

    yes. 1 day notice after working for 1 week. 1 day severance. didn't need to explain it to my child b/c even she could tell the nanny was terrible.

    Yes. I gave her 2 weeks notice but she then violatexd my trust and we ended abruptly. My daughter was a small infant so no explanation was necessary.

    yes. we gave her 2 weeks. the children did not like her!

    Yes. We gave six weeks' notice and posted an ad for her.

    Yes. We needed someone that drove. I talked with her and let her know. I gave her 1 month's notice and an extra $1000. We explained that she the new nanny would be their new nanny and that the old one would still come and watch them occassionally and that now they had 2 nannies. i was able to ahve the new one start a couple months before the old one left so they had both nannies for awhile.