High conflict ex
How do you keep your confidence with an ex who constantly blames you for everything and tries to convince everyone that you are not a good care taker? Everyone who gets to know us eventually sees through the lies.
Sep 3, 2022
How do you keep your confidence with an ex who constantly blames you for everything and tries to convince everyone that you are not a good care taker? Everyone who gets to know us eventually sees through the lies.
Parent Replies
My heart goes out to you as you deal with this toxic ex.
From your brief description, it sounds as if this person has some sort of psychiatric condition - bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, narcissism, maybe even psychopathy.
While there are some good pop psychology books that describe strategies for dealing with individuals with all these types of mental illnesses, it sounds like your situation is so bad that you should seek help from a licensed mental health professional as soon as possible.
Don't let this a***e get you down. These malevolent people pick their targets carefully. Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him hurt you.
Some family courts can require mediation, or even set up a no-contact way of allowing him to visit the children. You may need a lawyer as well.
Wishing you all the best.