True North Parent Coaching: Looking For Alternative Forms of Discipline?

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Toddlers, Preschoolers, Kinder, School-Aged, Preteens, Teens

Grounding, timeouts, and taking things away from kids are all common forms of discipline. However, these methods can be ineffective and even counterproductive in some cases. If you are looking for some alternative discipline methods here are a few that you can try:

  • Natural consequences: Natural consequences are the logical and unavoidable results of a child's actions. For example, if a child breaks a toy, they may have to pay for a new one. Or, if a child doesn't do their homework, they may not get to watch TV that night. Natural consequences are effective because they help children learn to take responsibility for their actions.
  • Positive reinforcement: Positive reinforcement is the act of rewarding a child for good behavior. This can be done with verbal praise, stickers, or small prizes. Positive reinforcement is effective because it helps children learn what behavior is expected of them.
  • Time-ins: Time-ins are a type of discipline that involves bringing a child to a quiet place to calm down. Staying with them is a big part of Time-ins. Experiments with what works for your child.  For some kids singing a quiet song might help. For others speaking softly or gentle touch (rubbing the back) is effective.  Other kids might just need your presence without any talking or even touch.  Some kids may want to be alone and that’s ok too. Don’t use the time-ins to try and talk to your child about their behavior, fix the situation, problem solve or deliver discipline.  Wait to engage with them when they have calmed down.  It’s ok if that doesn’t happen until much later. 
  • Talking it out: Once everyone is calm, talking it out is a simple but effective way to work through the situation. When a child misbehaves, take some time to talk to them about what happened and brainstorm what they can do differently the next time. This is a good opportunity to teach them healthy coping strategies when they have strong emotions and to help them begin to build self regulation skills and resilience.

It is important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to discipline. What works for one child may not work for another. The key is to find methods that are effective with each individual child and that feels comfortable to you.

If you are a parent looking for individual and unique support and guidance, parent coaching may be a good option for you. Please visit my WEBSITE to learn more about working with me. I offer a free 30 minute consultation call to explore parent coaching. You can schedule that HERE.  Using a parent coach help you build the tools and resources you need to be a more effective parent and create a more positive and joyful home environment for the whole family.

Jenny Michaelson
truenorthparentcoaching [at]